We’re in the middle of the second national ‘lockdown’. Life has not been normal for 8 months now. Fear is all around us. This is having a profound effect on all of us – and this has been very much reflected in my client work this week. I’ve been doing a lot of emotional support work. Here’s just one example of a client session this week:
Client T has been seeing me remotely (via video link) for six months – this was her 6th session. We began working together on her gut health – digestive symptoms. Since then, we’ve touched on self-esteem, sleep, work and family stresses and various nutritional supports. T began this session by saying her digestion had been a bit off again and that she wanted a general check up. As we talked, she revealed an emotional issue with food which went back to her teens. She said that the Covid situation had ‘hit’ her. She isn’t fearful for herself or her family but feels out of control. And the way she has always gained control is by controlling her food intake and/or going to the gym (which is currently shut). I could use a label – anorexia, an eating disorder, body dysmorphia, etc – but the fact is every client I’ve met with food issues is totally unique and individual. It’s usually about having control when they feel out of control … and there’s usually emotional trauma – usually someone else has been in or taken control. I believe the way I can help is to help them see where, when, how and why they developed this control mechanism. And then support them with whatever tools show as helpful.
T said she was ready to work on this for the first time in her life. She’s 30. She said she’s “sick of it controlling me, not me it”. She wants change. She gets physical digestive symptoms which feel like she’s not able to digest. She feels fat, frumpy, lethargic, achey and gets constipated – which makes her feel really upset. She constantly questions what she’s eating and never eats the same as her husband and kids, even though all their meals are home-cooked and nutritious. She makes herself something separate – which is lower in calories.
I asked her how she wanted to feel. She said “relaxed and happy” while eating. She wants to be able to cook and bake with her children and then sit down to eat the meal with them. She said it’s all about not putting on weight and that she couldn’t look at herself in the mirror if she ate the family food. I asked what she sees and how she feels when she looks in the mirror. She said she doesn’t look – especially without clothes – it makes her feel uncomfortable, nauseous. She said she wants to chop bits off – so “they all fit”.
I asked when she first became aware of these feelings. She thought it was at the start of secondary school. She was much taller than everyone else in school at that age – she had developed faster. Then she remembered being in a play aged a bit younger – around 10 or 11. In the photos, she said she looked twice the size of the other children. Also, T has an older sister who she looked up to very much. She was very slim and a very picky eater. She wouldn’t eat family meals. So already we could see some of the possible explanations.
We had done a lot of talking and it seemed we had got as far as we could with T’s conscious mind – her memories had dried up. So I started my remote kinesiology work. I do this by tuning into the client’s energy and muscle-testing myself. Unsurprisingly, emotions showed as the emergency. I’d recently discovered The Emotion Code work by Bradley Nelson. I’ve been combining it with a list of words created by Sue Morgan (Baseline Energy Responses). BERs relate to energy disturbances registered in the body which are created the first time something happens and which have created an unconscious pattern of reaction which is repeated whenever we have a similar experience. They’re ideal for trauma release work.
The BER word which tested up was “safe”. I went back in age from T’s current age and age 7 tested as relevant. Because of what she had told me about being bigger than her classmates, I tested if ‘school’ was relevant and it was. I then looked for what support was needed and it was the Australian Bush Flower Essence Waratah. This is the emergency essence – for ‘the dark night of the soul’ situations. None of this made sense to me. I tested whether it was okay to tell T what had come up and it was. She immediately put it all together. She loved her school and her teacher when she was 7. It was her safe place. Because home wasn’t safe. Her dad was an alcoholic and at that time was drinking a litre of whisky a day. T said that she answered him back, unlike her mum and sister. This provoked him and the lowest point was when he held her to a wall by her neck. He almost throttled her. She went to school to feel safe. I took some of the essence and we both held ’emotional stress release’ points. I felt waves of emotion going through me. T sighed, cried and yawned for some time. When she settled, I carried on my testing.
I tested T saying “I am safe” and got a weak response. I tested for support and a Rainbow Essence – Healing was wanted – it was perfect, as T is also a therapist. The relevant meridian was Stomach. I took some of the essence and T and I held our lower heart area while she repeated “I am safe” over and over again. I suggested she see herself as that 7 year old. I prompted her to hold the 7 year old (she told me afterwards that she had already been doing that – and that she had seen herself age 11 too) and to tell her that she’s safe and that everything turned out so well. To show her that she’s now 30, got her own family and really fulfilling work which she loves. That she has an adoring husband and a close relationship with her parents. She is safe.
When T settled, we finished by tapping the beginning of the Stomach meridian and repeating “I am safe”. I tested if anything else was needed – it wasn’t. The Healing essence needed to be taken so I posted T a dosage bottle. I suggested she do the tapping and say the affirmation regularly.
As I prepare to re-open my clinic room for in-person appointments, I’m going to indulge in a little reflection and sharing of my thoughts on these past four months and what I have learned from them. It’s been a unique (hopefully!) opportunity to pause and change how we live. What have you learned? Here are my thoughts …
- I need to really move my body to feel healthy. I think a lot of us blood type O people are the same. We have sluggish lymph and a tendency to live on our adrenals. When we weren’t allowed to leave our homes, I used a rebounder in my garden every day. At first it was tough going and my legs and bum ached like mad – I could only manage a few minutes. After two weeks I got a lot stronger and now I can do 10-15 minutes vigorous running and bouncing. I feel so much better for shifting my circulation and really filling my lungs with air. I’ve also loved being able to continue to do my usual yoga class (actually increasing to twice a week) and re-starting ballet classes via video.
- I’m not as extrovert as I thought. I’ve become quite happily self-contained (with hubby) – which surprises me as I love teaching and being with people. Although I have really appreciated having more time to connect with family, friends and colleagues around the world via phone and video.
- We are energy and we are energetically connected. I’m not clear on how to label or define this more. All I know is that my video client sessions and the healing circle I led every Friday at 4 have felt very powerful indeed. I’ve developed ‘remote’ working skills which frankly blow my mind and involve being able to connect with people energetically.
- I was more stressed/adrenal than I realised. I’m going to work less/smarter and play more. Part of this is learning that I don’t need much money to buy what I really value.
- What I really value. 1) Good food – I’ve been so grateful to Riverford for their weekly vegbox delivery and to Down to Earth, the Kiwi Butcher and the Brace of Butchers for being operational throughout. 2) Nature – getting out into the countryside and onto the sea is a real blessing for me – to be enjoyed as often as possible, ideally daily.
- I can only help those who want/seek my help. This is (like the rest of me!) a work in progress, but it’s been reinforced as I’ve had to stand by while loved ones have health problems and make choices which I don’t think are in their best interests.
How about you? What did you learn during lockdown? I’d love to hear from you. Jane
I recently bought a SUP (stand-up paddleboard) and on my first outing I was reminded that I used to have cripplingly painful plantar fasciitis. I had forgotten all about it. Staying upright on a SUP requires constant effort in the muscles, tendons and ligaments in the soles of the feet and so I was reminded of their existence again. I hadn’t thought about them for years but they used to be so sore that I had to hobble to the bathroom first thing in the morning. Sometimes I could only make it by crawling on my hands and knees!
I believe this debilitating condition was caused by (a) being overweight, (b) speed-walking – in an attempt to lose weight, and (c) widespread inflammation in my body. My hands and feet used to be puffy – all my joints were – and I now observe and feel this puffiness in clients. It’s a sign of toxicity and imbalance in the gut … something needs to be detoxed and diet changes are probably also needed. In my case, I was already gluten and (mostly) dairy free at the time so I thought I ate healthily, however, I had candida overgrowth (an imbalance in the gut bacteria or “microbiome”) and I ate too many carbs (carbohydrates – ie, grains). Thanks to a kinesiologist, I undertook a detox diet and learned about paleo style eating. I lost 3 stone in weight, my wedding ring and shoes became loose fitting and painful feet became a thing of the past.
If you have painful soles or any other joints that are sore and puffy, please contact me. I’m sure I can help you reduce the underlying imbalances which cause inflammation … which causes so many chronic conditions. You can turn the tide of your health … even at 50+ … it’s never too late!
Black mould can cause breathing, sinus and other health issues. I had a classic kinesiology case of it recently. The client presented with sneezing a lot, itchy nose, etc and frequent colds. She reported that these symptoms disappeared (went from 9/10 to 0/10) when on holiday, so I immediately suspected her home environment (after checking for pets and work stress).
During the initial appointment, I muscle-tested for Histamine and found it was relevant – B6 and Vitamin C were the priority nutritional support. But I needed to find out what was going on at home so I asked the client to put open pots of dried beans (ideally aduki but in this case black eye) next to her bed and where she sits in the living room (ie, where we spend the most time). These dried beans literally absorb the environment and can then be muscle-tested.
At the next visit (3 weeks later), she reported that the sneezing had really reduced and brought along the jars of beans. I muscle-tested both and one of them weakened a strong muscle. Both Histamine and Mould tested as relevant to the weakness. I showed the client my findings and she said that it was the pot from next to her bed. She also said that there was water damage in one corner of her bedroom with black mould visible on the walls. I explained that such mould releases spores and toxic by-products which cause breathing and sinus issues, as well as lowering immunity generally. The client said that her husband had asthma which started since moving into the house. I advised getting any leaks fixed, removing all black mould (wear a mask during removal) and re-painting the walls with a mould or stain-blocking paint (move out of the room until the paint is fully dry – ie, for a few days or a week). You can use any cleaning product to remove mould but I recommend bicarbonate of soda – it’s cheap, natural and non-toxic.
I’m looking forward to hearing about her continued health improvements at her next visit.
UPDATE: this client has been totally FREE of all these symptoms since following the above advice. #lovewhatyoudo!